Putting your best foot forward is always the best approach in life. Wouldn’t you agree?
That’s why these 7 tips are important to remember next time you’re with a high quality woman. In fact, this advice should be incorporated into your entire life! That’s how important, productive, and successful it is. Whether it’s your boss at work, your subordinate at work, or the grocery store clerk – everyone you interact with will appreciate these 7 traits, especially a woman you are romantically interested in.
These 7 traits communicate confidence that a romantic hero would have in one of those romance novels that women read. The best part? They’re easy to learn and apply!
Before we get to the tips, internalize one thing:
Communication is the defining factor in any relationship. Especially a romantic relationship. Women are social creatures that are extremely keen on interpreting communication. If you communicate well, you will have much greater success in your romantic relationships.
That’s what the 7 traits are about. Communicating to a woman like you never have before. Do you know scientists and scholars (Christian and secular) agree that communication is 60% Body Language, 30% Tonality (how you say things), and only 10% Words (what you say).
That means 90% of what you are communicating to a woman is not the words that come out of your mouth! That is an astounding fact with loads of implications (which you will learn about in the 7 traits). I was amazed and later thrilled when I heard that fact because I realized that I too could become a man that women looked at as a romantic hero. I just needed to understand and integrate the 7 traits into my life.
Let’s proceed.
BODY LANGUAGE
1. Posture is not just something your mom used to nag you about. A man with great posture communicates several things. Proper posture communicates a man is healthy and takes care of himself. That means he respects his body. And if he respects his body, a woman interprets that as him respecting other things in his life. It’s a sign that he has self-respect – meaning confidence and high self-esteem. Every healthy Christian woman wants her man (or potential man) to have high self-esteem and solid confidence. In fact, beautiful high self-esteem women do not date men that have low self-esteem because they don’t respect themselves, so how could they respect her?
Confidence and self-esteem are not just related to a man’s health and self-respect. Posture also communicates status. Only high-status men walk with their shoulders back, chin up, and a pep in their step. This is the sort of confidence that a woman can feel comfortable around. A man who doesn’t look for trouble, but looks like he’d be trouble if you crossed him – but also a man that is positive and comfortable around people. A man with great posture looks like a leader, a dominant man, and a man sure of his actions.
If you do not have stellar posture, learn it and integrate it into your life now. Here is a quick, easy, and effective tip:
Stand with your back against a wall. Your heels, back of your legs, butt, back, shoulders and head should all be touching the wall. Arms resting comfortably at your side. Check to make sure all of the body parts listed are touching the wall.
How did it feel? Weird? Unlike yourself?
It will feel odd and out of character to carry yourself with correct posture at first. Do it anyway. In fact, it will feel odd to do any of these behaviors if you have never done them before. And that’s perfectly normal. That’s how every man feels when he learns something new. It’s something that comes with the territory if you want to be a romantic hero.
Remember to keep this posture throughout your entire day. And always check it in mirrors, windows, etc. I continue to check my posture as a habit so that I keep myself in check.
Men will notice and respect you more. Women will feel your presence and find you more attractive. More importantly, you will feel better about yourself and you will be expressing that in your posture.
As an aside, feeling good about yourself is also a great way to glorify God. When you live a life according to God’s commands, you are living a joyous and successful life. Your posture should communicate that.
2. Eye contact makes people feel like they have your attention. Whenever talking with a woman you are romantically interested in, you should be looking into her eyes. As a general rule, meaning ‘guidelines’ and not commandments, you should be looking into her eyes 60-80% of the time when telling a story, explaining something long, etc., otherwise you come off as too intense. Compliments, “thank you’s”, and questions should always be spoken with you looking into her eyes. Compliments should always be given with strong eye contact! Looking from your right eye to her right eye is a nice balance of making a connection without staring.
Refrain from looking down. Looking down communicates being uncomfortable and is low status. For example, slaves used to not be able to look royalty in the eye, so they looked down. Nowadays, everyone is equal and everyone is “allowed” to look people in the eye. It’s a matter of whether you respect yourself enough to give yourself permission.
3. Emoting is expressing an emotion with your body language and/or facial expressions. Women are highly emotional and you will communicate better with women if you can emote well. Start making facial expressions when talking. Was it an exciting ride on the way to work because you were late, had breakfast in one hand, and were driving 90mph? Express that in your face! Make hand gestures! etc.
Charismatic people are able to make their audience feel what they themselves are feeling. Emoting with your facial expressions and body language helps communicate what you are feeling. Women are highly sensitive to picking up on this subtle trait.
4. Your movements should appear calculated and purposeful. Think James Bond. You want to be smooth and direct. Not spastic and clumsy. There is a reason why James Bond is attractive to women, and part of that is his smooth swagger. Women want a directed man, not a clumsy boy.
Your walk should be like that of a gunslinger – a little bit of bounce in your step, sway in your arms, and twist in your hips. Take up space and move with confidence. When walking down a sidewalk and another person is walking in the opposite direction, do you move completely out of the way for them? You shouldn’t. Each of you splits the sidewalk so that there is an even pathway for both. That shows you both respect yourself, and the other person. Note: if there is a reason to give the person the entire sidewalk (injured, obese, carrying children, etc.), do so.
Women appreciate a man who is purposeful in his movements. It shows he is thoughtful, confident, and under control. All qualities that women enjoy their man having.
TONALITY
I didn’t think it was important to consider how words sounded when they came out of my mouth. It wasn’t until I read several books that I was convinced it is an important social trait. And scientist have proved, 30% of human communication is in tonality. That’s why men with deep, loud voices are automatically looked at as alpha, leaders, and respected men. Women often describe a man with a deep voice as sexy.
5. Speak in a calm and deep voice. If you have a high-pitched voice, fine. But many men talk from their throats. Talk from your belly. And speak slowly and coherently so that others can hear you. Again, it shows confidence and self-respect when a woman experiences a man who takes the time to speak clearly and with meaning.
6. Project your voice! This one sounds like it might be unimportant. But it is one of the most important tips. If people can’t hear you, you need to speak louder. If a woman says, “what?” or “I can’t hear you,” then you are failing in communicating with her. She is basically saying, “You are speaking like a timid boy. Can you speak like a confident man, please.”
‘Nuff said about projection. Just do it.
WHAT YOU SAY
Your words are only ten percent of your total communication, but this next tip was so important that I wanted to include it.
7. Make more statements and ask less questions. Questions are value seeking. “What do you do? Where are you from? What kind of salad are you going to get? Do you like my shoes?” Some questions are okay, and appropriate in the correct context. But most men ask too many questions of a woman they are romantically interested in. And they are usually the same boring questions.
Instead of asking “what do you do?”, say, “You look like the professional type,” or “You remind me of a school teacher.”
Women are annoyed by average guys asking average questions. A man that makes statements is more fun and again, shows confidence. A man that asks average boring questions is thought to be average and boring. Average and boring is highly unattractive to beautiful, high quality women.
Attractive women get asked boring questions by boring guys all the time.
SUMMARY
If you haven’t noticed the pattern already, you should know that all of these 7 traits are about communicating confidence in one way or another. Women respond to these traits because they know a man who displays all seven, is a man worthy of romantic relationship. Of course, there is more to dating, courtship, and romance than just those 7 traits, but you have a huge advantage now that you know what to do and how to do it.
The ideal Romantic Hero is a man who displays the 7 traits in all he does. He makes a conscious effort to improve himself, so that he is continually adding to his value as a Christian man. He knows that in order to successfully build romance with a high quality woman, his confidence must be rock solid and his communication will have to be effortless – and the only way to reach those high standards is to practice everyday.
Here is your plan of action: one day a week, focus on each of those traits. Make sure you are diligent. Make a list or put a reminder on your phone if you have to. If you keep it in your mind to develop these traits, you will see improvement. Three times a day remind yourself to keep up your trait. If the trait is posture, make sure you walk around your house with the correct posture. If it is eye contact, make sure you hold eye contact with everyone you speak to. I have found that it works best for me when I remind myself at breakfast, lunch, and dinner – those are good times to take a minute to think about the trait and how you can incorporate it into your day.
One trait a day. Seven days a week. In one month, you will have amazing results.
Congratulations, you are on your way to becoming a Romantic Hero!
This article was rather long, but it was important for you to understand these traits. If you have questions, concerns, or just need some support, prayer or advice, don’t hesitate to email me: MarkRose3030@gmail.com
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