Quick, list 3 things that you want in a woman – and it can’t be physical things. (It’s better if you use words and traits that are more specific and descriptive than “nice” and “friendly”.) Were you able to quickly list 3 things? Are you certain that they are personal to you and not just something you regurgitated because someone told you so?
Your dates will be more meaningful and your interactions with women will have more substance if you know what you want.
Every romantic hero has his own personal list of criteria that his woman must have. This ranges from personality traits like being adventurous and reliable, to lifestyle indicators like having a full-time job or being involved in church.
Why is it necessary to know what you want in a woman? Because you can’t have your dream woman if you don’t know who she is! (duh.)
Some things are lifestyle deal breakers. For me, I will only consider a woman if she is physically active outside. She must enjoy nature and she must enjoy hiking or trouncing around in the great outdoors. She doesn’t have to be a “mountain woman” or triathelon contender, but she must have her own desire to be outside and enjoy a little physical activity. Things like bike riding at a park or walking on a beach are good indicators. A girl that is afraid to sweat is a girl that I am not interested in. What kind of lifestyle indicators are you looking for in a woman?
Some things are physical deal breakers. I will only accept a woman who is physically healthy. A woman with poor eating habits and no exercise routines is a woman that I am not interested in. Also, beauty is a must. She has to be physically attractive to me personally. That means I use my own standards for beauty and attractiveness. She could be the most popular supermodel on earth, but just because millions of other men find her attractive does not automatically mean I will find her attractive. What do you personally find physically attractive in a woman? What is your idea of beauty?
Some things are personality deal breakers. She might be drop-dead gorgeous and love to engage nature (meets my two criteria mentioned above), but if her personality is bland and boring, then she is not a girl for me. In addition to being physically attractive and living a lifestyle that I find acceptable, my ideal woman is excitable, adventurous, energetic and quirky. What personality traits do you look for in a woman?
Most men are satisfied to have a gorgeous woman – they are so disillusioned by her beauty that they overlook EVERYTHING ELSE. Beauty and physical attractiveness are only one item on the checklist. The romantic hero has multiple things he screens for.
Guess what? Women are looking to qualify you… Does he have a career? Is he cute? Does he love his mom? What do his shoes look like? Does he take care of himself? (hygiene) …these are some things that some women screen for. They have their own checklists and you should too.
Next time you are interacting with a beautiful woman, screen her for some of the qualities that you want in a woman. If she qualifies on looks, move on to the next category. Does she have a personality that you enjoy? Lifestyle?
You will only find your dream woman if you know what she looks like, what she does, and how she behaves.
Got a question? Email me: mail@theromantichero.com
Cheers,
Mark
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